Millennials and the anxiety wheel

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With millions of people suffering of anxiety, with billions spent yearly on anxiety treatments and, despite the efforts, with only 39% of patients getting any form of treatment, America is facing one of the most serious mental health crisis in the western world. The problem does not seem to stop here, given that millennials, the generation of those born in the 80’s, seem to be affected even more by anxiety symptoms when compared to baby boomers:12% of them have a diagnosed anxiety disorder and 30% of working millennials suffer from general anxiety. Why do millennials seem to be so prone to anxiety? What can we do today to avoid a future where everyone may be, to a certain degree, effected by one of the most pernicious mental health issues? Here are our thoughts:

Why are millennials so anxious?
American Psychological Association (APA) argues that millennials face more stress and their coping mechanisms are not particularly helpful. While Baby-boomers worry about health and family issues, millennials have other reasons to stay up at night: low-income, student debt, job competition, social insecurity and the housing crisis. While some of these factors cannot be immediately erased from their lives, learning to manage anxiety around them is very important. It is also helpful if other reasons of stress were acknowledged and dealt with, amongst which:

Bad sleeping habits: we live in a world where pushing productivity to the highest limits is encouraged and even expected. This often means that millennials prefer to cut down on sleep to finish their work, binging on coffee and energy drinks. Freelancing or spending more than 8 hours a day working is not uncommon either. Because for this generation work is about results and not the amount of time spent in the office, many will continue working late in the night to get things done, seeing their loved ones less or sleeping less.

Sedentary life is on the rise, although healthy lifestyle choices seem more popular with this generation. A sedentary lifestyle usually comes with a poor diet, which translates in higher anxiety rates, on top of other health concerns.

Technology is millennials’ best friend and their silent enemy. Students spend about 9 hours a day on their phones, while working millennials in office jobs at least 8 hours staring at a screen. To many of them, relaxation time is about binging on Netflix, despite the fact that studies show that after only two hours of watching television people tend to feel more anxious.

Millennials are also the first digital generation and their presence on social media is the norm these days. While their preference for social media seems to have a positive economical impact, effects on a personal level can often be negative. First of all, there is usually a difference between what is expected of you on social media and the reality you live in. There is a pressure to display your happiest and most relaxed self online although you might feel quite the opposite in real life. Many online social connections do not mean many friends. The numbers of people with less than 3 close friends has continuously increased since 1985, with millennials being the ones to report most often “zero close friends”. On the other hand, anxious people tend to gather with other anxious people, which will inflate anxiety symptoms for everyone.

Finally, the balance between work, relationships and personal time is very sensitive and rarely achieved. Working long hours, not having enough time or emotional availability for others or themselves, millennials are riding a wheel that makes them more anxious the faster it spins.

Is there a way to stop it?
There is a silver lining indeed: millennials are valuing experiences more than things. While this can be an anxiety-provoking choice for older generations, for millennials it can open the door to a better relationship with themselves and to a more fulfilling life. This generation tends to prefer investing in themselves rather than in expensive objects and understands that a happy life is not necessarily about how much you have, but how well you can enjoy it. This is why many would go for personal development courses, enrol on creative classes or periodically try new things. They are more sensitive, but also more emotionally open than other generations, more willing to self-examine while assisted by trained professionals, and flexible enough to try to implement changes when proven that things don’t work for them.

Leading the best life you can have is possible and it is also your right. If you are one of the millennials who need to explore anxiety-related symptoms, to make sense of what is happening to you and to turn vulnerability into strength, Counseling Centre for Emotional Growth is the place for you. Our counselors and psychotherapists will provide the safe, confidential and nurturing space you need in order to find inner peace, balance and meaning. We are here to help.


Anxiety: the modern faces of an ancient challenge

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According to recent studies, anxiety is on the rise and comes second after depression in a top of mental health problems worldwide. America has the largest number of people diagnosed with anxiety, 8 in 100 suffering because of it. In fact, millions of people on all continents face a recurrent feeling of fear, worry or even panic that interferes with their life, interrupting their daily tasks and negatively impacting their level of wellbeing. The western world lives in an era of comfort and affluence, but this doesn’t seem to stop us from feeling unable to enjoy what we have.

What is anxiety?

Anxiety is one of the oldest emotions known to man. In low doses, it is helpful and can act as a motivator. It is also the emotion responsible for the ‘fight or flight’ response that many living beings have. Thanks to their anxiousness, our ancestors could recognize dangerous situations and respond accordingly, by facing the threat or running away from it. Today, most of us have no major physical, life-threatening challenges to face, but anxiety is still with us. People with anxiety tend to worry excessively, sometimes without an obvious reason. There are many degrees of anxiety, that range from mild forms to generalized anxiety disorders and phobias.

Anxiety in the era of ‘you can have it all’. Why?

One of the big questions that seem to preoccupy mental health researchers is ‘why is anxiety spreading so fast today in the western world?’. Although major physical threats aren’t part of our daily routine, there are new forms of perceived threats that can keep us awake at night, such as…

  1. Unpredictable political and economic climate. With an economy that seems to jump from one crisis to another, our long-term finances and job security often feels impossible to achieve. This means worrying about tomorrow – would we have a job paid well enough to buy a house, have a family or afford health insurance? On the other hand, political change can fuel the economic unease and birth new worries, like war, immigration, terrorism etc.

  2. More technology, less contact. Being digitally connected it doesn’t always mean authentically engaging with others. We might have hundreds or even thousands of people in our friends lists, but nobody to talk to. On the other hand, technology is pushing us to be more efficient and try multi-task. However, studies show that, on one hand, multitasking doesn’t mean being more efficient and, on the other hand, it correlates with higher levels of anxiety in people who do it.

  3. Lifestyle choices and trends. In a world where we live the way food, fashion, music, jobs, and lifestyle trends dictate, keeping up with the perceived “norm” can be difficult. In order to be like our cool social media “friends”, we push ourselves to the limit, forgetting that trying to run the extra-mile all the time can be burnout and anxiety inducing. On the other hand, we sometimes become the victims of our lifestyle choices. Leading a sedentary life, eating junk food or smoking affects our health in the long run and we are aware of it. However, worrying too much about what will happen to us tomorrow because of the lifestyle decisions we make today isn’t always a good motivator to change our behavior and they can even act as new anxiety-provoking factors.

  4. Lack of meaning. According to existential analysis, an efficient way to deal with anxiety is by living a meaningful life, but how to focus on creating something meaningful in a world that tells us to ‘consume, consume, consume’? Instead of taking the challenge to face the fear within us and to engage in meaningful activities, we might prefer to compulsively shop, eat, drink, travel etc. In the end, it seems easier and faster to bury that fear under layers of beautiful possessions than to create something that gives meaning to the life of us and others.

How to deal with anxiety?

People can live with anxiety for all their lives and not even be aware that they can get better. If you feel that fear impacts your life, you don’t need to wait until it gets the best of you – better take some simple measures that can considerable change your quality of life. For example, start with giving yourself more time to relax; try mindfulness techniques to connect yourself to here and now; let yourself be imperfect and take a break from looking at the life your social media friends appear to live; exercise daily and eat more vegetables and fruit; talk to genuine people about the things you care for; discover or rediscover what you really enjoy doing. Finally, join a group of people who face similar feelings or see a therapist. They can help you understand where your anxiety originates, what type of anxiety you are facing and even support you in discovering the best ways to deal with it.

It’s worth knowing that anxiety can also be a gift – it can be a sign that it’s time you reconsidered your priorities and found your real path, a sign that you need a change and you’re ready for it. Should you need support in your dealing with anxious feelings, contact us. We’re here to help you start the journey to a better life and a more authentic self.

Childhood Onset of Some Mental Health Conditions

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doll-1551633_1280Childhood is usually a time of our lives that we enjoy looking back on. However, there are people whose childhood is also a time when some mental health issues start manifesting themselves. As a parent, you’d want to pay close attention to the first possible signs. Why? Firstly, because your child deserves a childhood to look back at with joy and, secondly, because some of them might be chronic and become life-long conditions. This article will give you a short glimpse into what kind of conditions are found in early years, what easy-to-spot symptoms to keep an eye out for and what actions to consider if you notice them.

  1. Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) – although it is normal for kids to have a short attention spam, be energetic or get impulsive about certain things, a child that displays any, some or all of these behaviours in a consistent manner might have a form of ADHD. Undiagnosed and untreated, it can affect a person’s present and future life, from school performance to relationships and general wellbeing.

  2. Autism – those on the autistic spectrum are usually diagnosed by age 3. However, mild forms of autism can go undiagnosed for a very long time, placing the child or the teenager in a position where their interaction with others is affected, as well as their interests and their behaviour in social situations.

  3. Anxiety disorders – anxiety is healthy as long as it helps a human being adapt to the environment and be aware of possible dangers. However, there are forms of maladaptive anxiety, making young people develop certain disorders with long-term effects on their life. Some of the most common manifestations are obsessive compulsive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder. People with anxiety symptoms will not be able to attend to their daily activities or will require greater effort. Children going through difficult life events, like bullying, parents’ divorce, accidents, etc. can develop post-traumatic stress disorder, a condition that can affect them long enough after the event occurred, sometimes even for life.

  4. Eating disorders are usually more common in teenagers, but currently the age of onset is rapidly decreasing to younger and younger ages. Bulimia nervosa and anorexia nervosa are two of the most well-known eating disorders. They can have a serious impact on one’s mental and physical health, often seen as potentially life-scaring and life-threatening conditions.

  5. Mood disorders. Mood swings are normal in children and adolescents, but recurrent and intense feelings of sadness or over-excitement can be a sign of a mood disorder, such as depression or bipolar disorder.

Changes that should concern you

Behaviour – with every day, your child learns something new and behaves a bit differently to yesterday. However, there are situations when such changes don’t help them adapt to the environment and even make their life harder. Start ask yourself if everything is ok if you spot signs of aggressiveness and challenging behaviour, an expressed desire to hurt themselves or others, withdrawal, social isolation or crying for no apparent reason and more than once a day (in adolescents).

Mood and feelings – intense feelings that disrupt a child’s activity, sleep and/or schedule can be a sign that they are developing a mood disorder, especially if they last for more than a couple of weeks.

Concentration problems – not being able to pay attention to activities considered specific for their age group (e.g., school subjects, play or other enjoyable activities) or even having a problem sitting still can be major warning signs that the child might develop ADHD.

Physical changes – young people’s bodies change a lot through the years, but there are situations when some individuals might lose or gain a lot of weight in a short time span, while changing their eating habits as well. Their discourse might be very much focussed on body issues, which should make a parent consider an undiagnosed eating disorder.

Substance abuse and physical harm – Because for children and teenagers in general can find it difficult to cope with their emotions, developing a mental condition might push them into using other means of expressing themselves. Alcohol, drugs, self-harm or even delinquent behaviours can be more than signs of young rebelliousness – they can be signs of a serious mental health condition that might enter their life and never leave, if undiagnosed.

If you think your child acts unusually, doesn’t feel themselves anymore and you find them difficult to cope with, try looking for help. There is always a way to resolve things or make them better. Medication and/or therapy, as well as love for and understanding of your child can protect them from the long-life pain and isolation that may come with undiagnosed/misdiagnosed mental health conditions. Should you require psychotherapeutic support or counselling for your child or yourself as a parent, please feel free to contact us. Making a move early can help you and your child embrace who they are, look for the best solutions and start enjoying life again.