Managing the Holidays After Divorce

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Life after divorce is a time of redefinition: redefining your family, redefining your marriage status, and sometimes even redefining yourself. When it comes to the holidays, all this redefinition can add unwanted stress to your celebrations. If you find this stress creeping up on you, consider taking these steps to help manage your holidays this year.


•  Preserve some old traditions, start some new ones.

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A change in your holiday traditions is inevitable after a divorce. Nonetheless, this time of transition shouldn’t mean that you have to give up everything you enjoy about the season. 

Try making a short list of the traditions that are most important to you. Are there ways that you can still integrate these traditions into your new family structure? Depending on your current relationship with your former spouse, can you participate in any of these traditions together? Some people find they can make this work, and others simply cannot. Do what makes the most sense for your family. Read more >

Choosing to Have a Strong Relationship

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Choosing to Have a Strong RelationshipIt’s often an exciting experience to start a new relationship. Finding someone who shares your interests, joys, goals and sorrows makes you feel on top of the world.  But healthy, long-term relationships are built on more than just attraction and infatuation that comes early on.  To have a strong, long lasting relationship with your partner, you both must be willing to put in the time and effort.


A continuous effort is needed to build a solid foundation that offers strong support for the inevitable challenges the future holds.  And it takes time to know whether the elements that make up that foundation are present. But when they are and the proper amount of effort is added, a deeper more meaningful relationship will have the chance to develop.


Why Successful Relationships Take Time to Build

Building a strong relationship with someone is a gradual process. Certain interactions happen that can change how you relate with one another. For instance, conflicts will inevitably arise.  Choosing how to deal with such disagreements will either strengthen or deteriorate the relationship. In addition, changes in personality or circumstances may affect how you feel about one another. The way both partners react to change can act as an opportunity to either improve the relationship or become the source of separations and break ups.

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Understand Your Emotions Now, Feel Better Later

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medium_2884915815Due to our hectic lifestyles, stress and anxiety have now become inevitable in our day-to-day living. If left unaddressed, these negative emotions can build up over time, causing you to suffer a burnout or a meltdown. Don’t worry, though, as there are many approaches you can easily take to feel better.


Reach Out to Friends and Family
Friends and family can be a strong support system that you can get when you’re not feeling your best. When you talk to someone you trust about your emotions, you’ll gain amazing insights and advice that you would have never gotten otherwise. You’ll be learning from other people’s experiences, and their stories will serve as a short-cut through life’s many trials and tribulations.


Counseling or Therapy

If you have been suffering from long-term and serious emotional distress, counseling or therapy may be what you need to feel better. You’ll be able to consult a professional who understands what you need to do in order to overcome setbacks, and help you transform negativity into positivity. A professional therapist will help you make peace with the past while guiding you toward a better future.


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When Fear Affects Your Life

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When Fear Affects Your LifeWith Halloween just around the corner, we see “scary” things around every corner. A creepy advertisement for a horror film. A “haunted house” designed to give you a fright. A spooky decoration made to make you jump. Fear becomes fun at this time of year.

But fear isn’t fun for everyone. When fear becomes so consuming that it affects how we go about our day-to-day lives, it can prevent us from living our lives to the fullest and enjoying life’s moments. While some people may experience only specific fears, such as a fear of spiders, many people experience fear’s effects to the point where their entire days are spent living with fear’s consequences.

Many significant mental health issues that revolve around fear can be overcome with the help of a trained counselor or therapy group. While this is not an overnight fix, overtime the issue causing fear can be adequately addressed and through therapy techniques, can be eliminated.

Here are a few conditions relating to fear:


1. People with anxiety and panic disorder have sudden and repeated attacks of fear that last for several minutes or longer. These are called panic attacks. Panic attacks are characterized by a fear of disaster or of losing control even when there is no real danger. A person may also have a strong physical reaction during a panic attack. It may feel like having a heart attack. Panic attacks can occur at any time, and many people with panic disorder worry about and dread the possibility of having another attack. A person with panic disorder may become discouraged and feel ashamed because he or she cannot carry out normal routines like going to the grocery store or driving. Having panic disorder can also interfere with school or work.

2. A phobia is an intense fear of something that, in reality, poses little or no actual danger or has a controllable element to it. Common phobias and fears include closed-in places, heights, highway driving, flying insects, snakes, and needles. However, we can develop phobias of virtually anything. If you have a phobia, even though you may realize the fear is unreasonable, you can’t control the anxiety when facing the feared situation. Often, even thinking about the feared situation can cause anxiety to grow, and if actually exposed to it, terror and panic is automatic and overwhelming. When you try to deal with a phobia on your own, you may go out of your way to the point of changing your lifestyle, just to avoid the feared item. If you have a fear of heights, for example, you might drive an extra twenty miles in order to avoid a tall bridge.

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What is “Normal Eating”?

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What is normal eating?  - CCFEG.comDo you remember the last time you were really hungry?  You may not.

Many people aren’t sure what normal eating actually is and don’t actually eat when our bodies are telling us that we are hungry. We tend to eat when we are bored, in social environments, feeling emotional, or in many other non-hunger related situations.

Eventually our bodies forget how to eat normally.  There is a disconnect between hunger and eating, which can lead to many issues such as eating disorders.

To get our bodies back on track, we need to understand exactly what is “normal” when it comes to taking food into our bodies.
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The Emotional Component of ADHD

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Emotional Component of ADHDWhen we discuss attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), we often hear about symptoms such as difficulty paying attention, impulsivity, and disruptive behavior. These only tell part of the story, however. One of the most difficult aspects of ADHD to deal with is the tumultuous emotions. These emotions are difficult to measure, but they affect relationships, self-esteem, and overall happiness. Understanding and seeking help for these emotions, however, can really help.

There are a number of effects common to the emotional turbulence of ADHD. One very common emotional effect is hypersensitivity. Emotions can change from neutral to extreme very quickly. This intensity can be very difficult to deal with and can also negatively impact social situations and relationships. Another common emotional issue is being very sensitive to criticism. This effect, often called rejection-sensitive dysphoria, can make you feel like you are being teased or rejected, even if that was not the intention of the people around you. This can be a very isolating feeling and harm your relationships with others, as well as your self-esteem.

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The Psychological Effects of Divorce on Women

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Psychological Effects of Divorce on Women - CCFEG.comWomen are taught that they are the keepers of the family from a young age. The men go out and make the money and the women keep the family running. While that is an outdated sentiment, often women still feel this way. This is part of the reason why divorce can be so psychologically devastating particularly for women.


And the guilt only intensifies if there are children involved. There is a sense of “I should have been able to keep it together.” Because of this, it’s not uncommon for women to begin feeling depressed and overwhelmed. This depression can lead to more feelings of guilt, which can lead to more depression.  Once a woman enters a guilt-depression-guilt cycle, it can be difficult to emerge from it.


To avoid entering this cycle, it’s important to step back.  It’s normal to feel guilty about your part in the relationship, but don’t take on the responsibility of the whole situation.  Remember that you were in the relationship with someone else who also was responsible for its outcome. With the exception of a few circumstances, it is rarely ever just one person’s fault that a relationship dissolved.
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Mental Health Websites

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Alzheimer’s Association

American Academy of Pediatrics

American Association of Geriatric Psychiatry (AAGP)

American Psychiatric Association (APA) Public Information

Anxiety Disorders Association of America (ADAA)

Best Buddies

Center for Patient Advocacy

Child and Adolescent Bipolar Foundation

Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA) Read more >

Career Search

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Online Employment Information

These guides offer listings of employment resources, career exploration guides, salary guides, and much more.

JOB-HUNT.ORG offers numerous well-selected links to job search resources for the world. Users can search for job sites by location, profession, industry or job type. Site owner, Susan Joyce, has included several other useful articles and information resources, including articles on protecting privacy online and choosing a job site.


This online guide to the job search is developed and maintained by Richard Bolles. It was developed to supplement his print publications (“What Color is Your Parachute”) Included on this site is his Net Guide to the best job search and career information sites online. Read more >

Medication Information Links

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The Counseling Center for Emotional Growth (CCFEG) hopes these external website resources will be of assistance. CCFEG is not responsible for the privacy practices, content, or reliability of other websites. Please read the privacy policies of the external sites since their privacy practices.

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